“Stay Positive” was the motto I was raised in. Growing up in Marin County hippie central of the world I was fortunate to grow up with this mind set and had the right guidance in life to have an understanding and appreciation by showing respect for nature and all living things. I was compassionate about animals would go to shelters just to play with them. Went Vegetarian for almost 7 years to upkeep this positive lifestyle. If I had a nickle for every time a hippie told me to “stay positive” I would be a millionaire. The words are wise, they are truthful but depending on the situation.
I learned that victims of assault or trauma will always live in or periodically experience the mood or energy that stems from that trauma . The state of mind can be suppress for so long by staying positive or distracting yourself with work, school or other activities. Although those are good for our physical health they are not good for our psych.
Suppressing our thoughts by distracting ourselves, or thinking positive about something will help you in that momentarily time. Usually when people are in their rested state of mine is usually when the cognitive process wakes up. Where thoughts become a load of work and over analyzing begin to consume your emotional state, you search for justifcation of your feelings rather than solutions for your negative thoughts. Thoughts trigger from issues in life; debt, relationships, feeling alone and then people will turn to addicts of something or even hoarders over a period of time when the depression is not treated.
The mind is doing this so it doesn’t have to process the bullshit. We emote it and go out to distract ourselves and use expressive terms like: “YOLO!” (you only live once, well FYI dumb asses, YODO to you because you also only die once.) “Party Hardy!” “Live it Up! “ will always be the simple solution. Until you go through something that physically stops you and makes you incapable of participating in your YOLOING your mind will start to over process. Your cognitive thoughts that momentarily rested have awaken and you will find yourself going down a negative spiral that is uncontrollable, you will start questioning people resenting the world.
Study shows that 26% of Americans will suffer from depression that is more than a quarter of the United States Of America. And only 1/10 people seek treatment for their emotional state. Anti-depressants are never the solution. NEVER, EVER. Talking to a trusted friend or family member will help a lot but most people feel scared or humiliated, embarrassed or timid. (i am obsessed with unicorn barf so nothing can be more embarrassing than that).
My overall thought is that you use your words when something doesn’t feel right and handle the issues or experiences right at that moment so you don’t have to ever deal with the “what if’s”. Not all people will understand, but the ones who show you true empathy are the ones that have already or are living through it. Then after you speak about the experiences you get the advice you want , AND THEN FROM THAT POINT AND ONLY AT THAT POINT YOU STAY POSITIVE AND KEEP TRUCKIN’!