positive minds do not create positive people

“Stay Positive” was the motto I was raised in. Growing up in Marin County hippie central of the world I was fortunate to grow up with this mind set and had the right guidance in life to have an understanding and appreciation by showing respect for nature and all living things. I was compassionate about animals would go to shelters just to play with them. Went Vegetarian for almost 7 years to upkeep this positive lifestyle. If I had a nickle for every time a hippie told me to “stay positive” I would be a millionaire. The words are wise, they are truthful but depending on the situation.

I learned that victims of assault or trauma will always live in or periodically experience the mood or energy that stems from that trauma . The state of mind can be suppress for so long by staying positive or distracting yourself with work, school or other activities. Although those are good for our physical health they are not good for our psych. 

Suppressing our thoughts by distracting ourselves, or thinking positive about something will help you in that momentarily time. Usually when people are in their rested state of mine is usually when the cognitive process wakes up. Where thoughts become a load of work and over analyzing begin to consume your emotional state, you search for justifcation of your feelings rather than solutions for your negative thoughts. Thoughts trigger from issues in life; debt, relationships, feeling alone and  then people will turn to addicts of something or even hoarders over a period of time when the depression is not treated.

The mind is doing this so it doesn’t have to process the bullshit. We emote it and go out to distract ourselves and use expressive terms like: “YOLO!” (you only live once, well FYI dumb asses, YODO to you because you also only die once.) “Party Hardy!” “Live it Up! “ will always be the simple solution. Until you go through something that physically stops you and makes you incapable of participating in your YOLOING your mind will start to over process. Your cognitive thoughts that momentarily rested have awaken and you will find yourself going down a negative spiral that is uncontrollable, you will start questioning people resenting the world.

Study shows that 26% of Americans will suffer from depression that is more than a quarter of the United States Of America. And only 1/10 people seek treatment for their emotional state. Anti-depressants are never the solution. NEVER, EVER. Talking to a trusted friend or family member will help a lot but most people feel scared or humiliated, embarrassed or timid. (i am obsessed with unicorn barf so nothing can be more embarrassing than that).

My overall thought is that you use your words when something doesn’t feel right and handle the issues or experiences right at that moment so you don’t have to ever deal with the “what if’s”. Not all people will understand, but the ones who show you true empathy are the ones that have already or are living through it. Then after you speak about the experiences you get the advice you want , AND THEN FROM THAT POINT AND ONLY AT THAT POINT YOU STAY POSITIVE AND KEEP TRUCKIN’!

I am really looking forward to this book

This was such a touching story.

Copy and paste this into your browser such an inspiration for all my friends who need a pick me up. My fairy tale was not as nearly this sweet but I met someone during a pretty hard time in my medical life. Both these links will tell a story, have a tissue box ready bitches. Even for you  atheist.



Filet Mignon Reduced In Red Wine and Butter



3 Filet Mignon’s

Vegetable oil (has a higher cooking temperature)



1/2 cup of Red Wine Of Your Choice

5 tablespoons Butter

1 Bunch of asparagus

2 Yellow Medium Size Potatoes (1 potato per serving)

3 Garlic Clove; 1 whole clove cut in half to boil, and 2 minced for asparagus

1/3 cup of milk

Lemon for Asparagus

Prep:With a brush, sweep both sides of filet with oil of your choice. This will help set seasoning and help reduce the need to pour oil directly into the pan.Season filets on both salts generously with salt and pepper.


Mash Potatoes: Dice potatoes in 1″ cubes and bring pot of water to cover potatoes 1″-2″ adding 1 tablespoon of salt and a clove of garlic bring to a boil and test when ready by inserting a fork the potato cube should split in whole halves rather than crumble. (crumbling means its over cooked, need not to worry just use less milk when mashing) Add 2 tablespoons of butter and milk pressing down flatly with a metal fork. Continue to press potatoes until preferred consistency add salt and pepper to taste.

Filets: Bring heavy or cast-iron pan to highest heat. (to test readiness of pan wet your hand and sprinkle the excess water over pan listen for the sizzle, if the pan sizzles or you see the water immediately disperse then the pan is ready to go. Preheat oven on bake till 450 degree (this is optional). Be sure all water excess is is dried from the pan before placing filets in it, water and oil are dangerous and will pop at you. Place the presentation side down (do not turn it for 2-2.5 minutes). Add 2 tablespoons of butter and a dash of olive oil (this will help butter not burn or turn black) Flip over for another 2 minutes the wine will reduce.(Optional Step)Depending on how well done or well you want your steak you can put the pan directly into the oven and allow it to sit for 2-3 minutes again (your preference) remove from oven.

Asparagus:In a medium size pan put 1 tablespoon of butter and a half a tablespoon of olive oil into the pan. Add minced garlic and stir frequently until garlic releases aroma. Place asparagus into pan cover and toss around every minute or so for 5 minutes seasoning with salt and pepper. Remove from heat and squeeze salt and pepper on it.

Presentation: On a dinner plate center mash potatoes at the base of your presentation. Place filet presentation side up directly on top of mash potatoes. Garnishing with 2-3 spears of asparagus and drizzle with remaining sauce from pan. VOILA! Bon Apettite!